3 days ago

Marc de Bruin

I don't often post testimonials or reviews; I don't know.... just not really into blowing my own trumpet, I guess. Perhaps I should. Whatever, haha.

Some clients, though, achieve SO much while and after working with me that it just boggles my mind, and I love to share it. Adam is one of those clients. The expectations and goals he set for himself as a person and in his business/work were toweringly high, and to see many (many) of those boxes being ticked just makes me giggle with amazement It also makes me feel honoured, having been part of that journey.

With some clients, it's about planting seeds only, and that's perfectly awesome. With others, you get to witness the harvesting, and that's awesomely grand!

Human potential is a SERIOUSLY underestimated and undervalued resource, and each and everyone of us carries it.

Are you able and willing to experience the brightness of your own light? It's burning there for you. Ready for whenever YOU are.

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"I came to Marc to set and structure my goals and targets, be held accountable and get to where I needed. I got so much more. He lead me on a path, getting back to my true self, to get to where I am today. My current company is a result of the processes and guidance from Marc. Highly recommended, it's amazing to have someone to speak to when I needed, he has a great ability to put you back on track in the moment and see things in flow and on the way to where you're heading. The quicker you get back on track, the further you go. Thanks Marc"

Adam P.
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4 days ago

Marc de Bruin

One of the many reasons why, in my counselling practice, I don't often go digging in clients' bag of past stuff; only sometimes, if they insist πŸ™‚

Why open up the bag if you can just drop it and don't look at it again?

#Simple #SimplifyingLife
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One of the many reasons why, in my counselling practice, I dont often go digging in clients bag of past stuff; only sometimes, if they insist :-)

Why open up the bag if you can just drop it and dont look at it again?

#Simple #SimplifyingLife

1 week ago

Marc de Bruin

This could be a screen grab from one of my sessions with clients.

Better
Faster
Fix
Get rid of
Overcome
Not feel anymore
Feel more of
Have more/less
Be better at
Be less shit at

Just some of the desires that cross my desk in conversation.

And it generally all boils down to "acceptance of what is", first....

#LoveMyJob #CounsellingRocks #LoveHearingPeoplesStories
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This could be a screen grab from one of my sessions with clients.

Better
Faster
Fix
Get rid of
Overcome
Not feel anymore
Feel more of
Have more/less
Be better at
Be less shit at

Just some of the desires that cross my desk in conversation.

And it generally all boils down to acceptance of what is, first....

#LoveMyJob #CounsellingRocks #LoveHearingPeoplesStories

1 week ago

Marc de Bruin

Today is RU OK? Day.

Too many people on this planet are definitely NOT ok, and four small but insanely meaningful steps could make a massive difference in their lives.

1) Ask: R U OK?
2) Listen (like: REALLY listen) to their answer
3) Encourage them to take steps
4) Check in with them (frequently)

Most people look OK on the outside, while not being OK at all on the inside. We often cannot see the hurt inside, because we've become so bloody damn good at putting on a mask, and covering shit up with adornments.

What looks good might well be good, but stats show 1 out of 4 is not good at all.

Ask: R U OK? And then listen. Listen closely.

Please.

#RUOK?
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Today is RU OK? Day.

Too many people on this planet are definitely NOT ok, and four small but insanely meaningful steps could make a massive difference in their lives.

1) Ask: R U OK?
2) Listen (like: REALLY listen) to their answer
3) Encourage them to take steps
4) Check in with them (frequently)

Most people look OK on the outside, while not being OK at all on the inside. We often cannot see the hurt inside, because weve become so bloody damn good at putting on a mask, and covering shit up with adornments.

What looks good might well be good, but stats show 1 out of 4 is not good at all.

Ask: R U OK? And then listen. Listen closely.

Please.

#RUOK?

3 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

The funniest thing in counselling for me is when people are stubbornly justifying their (perceived) reasons why their view of life (their "Story", which got them to see me) is right.

Usually it goes something like "Yeah, but, Marc, ......."

I mean, if you want to hold on to your "story" and live it, go right ahead. I won't be stopping you.

On the other hand, should you want to live another "story" -one that may serve you a whole lot better, you may want to stop debating me, and start thinking with me.

New story = new life. Old story = well, same old, same old.

You pick.

Clients and I usually have a quiet chuckle when they realise they are defending their old position πŸ™‚

#NewStory #OldStory #NewLife #SimilarLife #YouPick.
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The funniest thing in counselling for me is when people are stubbornly justifying their (perceived) reasons why their view of life (their Story, which got them to see me) is right.

Usually it goes something like Yeah, but, Marc, .......

I mean, if you want to hold on to your story and live it, go right ahead. I wont be stopping you.

On the other hand, should you want to live another story -one that may serve you a whole lot better, you may want to stop debating me, and start thinking with me.

New story = new life. Old story = well, same old, same old.

You pick.

Clients and I usually have a quiet chuckle when they realise they are defending their old position :-)

#NewStory #OldStory #NewLife #SimilarLife #YouPick.

4 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

Had a session today with someone who, as one of the ways to solve the -serious- problems in life, is contemplating suicide.

I totally respect the thoughts and feelings that can lead to this contemplation, and understand that, sometimes, stepping out seems the only way to stop the pain. I personally have no moral or religious issues with suicide as a concept or act. It is a choice people (can) make.

On the other hand, I do have issues with some of the reasoning people use to justify their choice, and WILL question them about this (and provide counter-arguments) when I find it necessary (all this aside from of my professional duty as counsellor and all the action I take based on it).

Often the reason behind suicide contemplations is:

"the family will be better off without me".

That reasoning is about as flawed as it can get, in my opinion. I have not heard a surviving family member of a suicider claim "We are so much better off now so-and-so is gone", yet. It is often the exact opposite.

I liken it to water. The person contemplating suicide thinks that by him/her stepping out, the water will cleanse the ones who are left, so they will be washed clean. My perspective is that yes, it is water, but in actual fact it is a tsunami. It doesn't cleanse at all; it just causes more destruction.

On average, in Australia, 200 people per day attempt suicide, and of those 8 "succeed". It is the leading cause of death among men (that was a shocker when I first saw that).

There is SO much that can be done before executing this totally irreversible plan.

I am deeply honoured to be part of a special group of professionals who can help people see a different perspective, and find another way.

Because, most of the times, there ARE other ways.

#SuicidePrevention #StayWithMe #ThinkAgain
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Had a session today with someone who, as one of the ways to solve the -serious- problems in life, is contemplating suicide.

I totally respect the thoughts and feelings that can lead to this contemplation, and understand that, sometimes, stepping out seems the only way to stop the pain. I personally have no moral or religious issues with suicide as a concept or act. It is a choice people (can) make.

On the other hand, I do have issues with some of the reasoning people use to justify their choice, and WILL question them about this (and provide counter-arguments) when I find it necessary (all this aside from of my professional duty as counsellor and all the action I take based on it).

Often the reason behind suicide contemplations is: 

the family will be better off without me.

That reasoning is about as flawed as it can get, in my opinion. I have not heard a surviving family member of a suicider claim We are so much better off now so-and-so is gone, yet. It is often the exact opposite.

I liken it to water. The person contemplating suicide thinks that by him/her stepping out, the water will cleanse the ones who are left, so they will be washed clean. My perspective is that yes, it is water, but in actual fact it is a tsunami. It doesnt cleanse at all; it just causes more destruction.

On average, in Australia, 200 people per day attempt suicide, and of those 8 succeed. It is the leading cause of death among men (that was a shocker when I first saw that).

There is SO much that can be done before executing this totally irreversible plan. 

I am deeply honoured to be part of a special group of professionals who can help people see a different perspective, and find another way. 

Because, most of the times, there ARE other ways.

#SuicidePrevention #StayWithMe #ThinkAgain

Absolutely awesome way of explaining grief/bereavement.

I am definitely going to use this way of visually explaining grief.

BBC Stories: Like Minds on BBC iPlayer

#Grief #Bereavement #LifeGrowsAroundIt

BBC Two
'You don't get over grief, you just learn to have it as part of your life.'

This analogy of how we deal with bereavement is absolutely spot on...
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4 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

More and more I am confronted with clients who (or whose loved ones) use (and are addicted to) meth/ice.

It is SERIOUSLY dangerous shit. Entirely chemical, highly addictive, ridiculously destructive and damaging for our bodies, totally mind altering, and potentially lethal.

The more I read about it, the more I go: OMG; WTF!!

Stay away from the stuff. As far as you can. Please.

Here are some common ingredients in meth. Scary.....
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Acetone is found in nail polish remover and paint thinner. It’s extremely flammable.

Anhydrous Ammonia is found in fertilizer and some cleaners. Mixing it with other chemicals creates a toxic gas.

Ephedrine/Pseudoephedrine is found in some cold medicines and diet pills. It can harm the respiratory system, nervous system, and heart in large quantities.

Hydrochloic Acid is used to make plastic. It is so corrosive that it can remove rust from steel and is capable of eating away flesh.

Lithium is found in batteries. It burns the skin, is highly explosive, and reacts violently with water.

Red phosphorus is found on matchboxes, in road flares, and in other explosives. It is highly flammable.

Toluene is found in brake fluid. It is so corrosive it can dissolve rubber.

Sodium Hydroxide or lye is used to dissolve roadkill. It is corrosive and can also burn skin or cause blindness.

Sulfuric Acid is found in drain cleaner or toilet cleaner. It is corrosive and can also burn the skin.

#Meth #Ice #StayAway
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More and more I am confronted with clients who (or whose loved ones) use (and are addicted to) meth/ice.

It is SERIOUSLY dangerous shit. Entirely chemical, highly addictive, ridiculously destructive and damaging for our bodies, totally mind altering, and potentially lethal.

The more I read about it, the more I go: OMG; WTF!! 

Stay away from the stuff. As far as you can. Please.

Here are some common ingredients in meth. Scary.....
-----

Acetone is found in nail polish remover and paint thinner. It’s extremely flammable.

Anhydrous Ammonia is found in fertilizer and some cleaners. Mixing it with other chemicals creates a toxic gas.

Ephedrine/Pseudoephedrine is found in some cold medicines and diet pills. It can harm the respiratory system, nervous system, and heart in large quantities.

Hydrochloic Acid is used to make plastic. It is so corrosive that it can remove rust from steel and is capable of eating away flesh.

Lithium is found in batteries. It burns the skin, is highly explosive, and reacts violently with water.

Red phosphorus is found on matchboxes, in road flares, and in other explosives. It is highly flammable.

Toluene is found in brake fluid. It is so corrosive it can dissolve rubber.

Sodium Hydroxide or lye is used to dissolve roadkill. It is corrosive and can also burn skin or cause blindness.

Sulfuric Acid is found in drain cleaner or toilet cleaner. It is corrosive and can also burn the skin.

#Meth #Ice #StayAway

1 month ago

Marc de Bruin

The first step to change is to make the decision to actually "do it". When we have decided to change our lives, how do we start, though?

There are many ways we can kick off the change action-plan that will get us to a better place in our lives, but many people get caught up in the "how?"-question.

This video briefly discusses three of the ways (and a potential fourth one) we can initiate the change process in a way that suits us, and that will be more sustainable.

youtu.be/QVqiWEmOVQg

Marc de Bruin
www.simplifyinglife.com.au
marc@simplifyinglife.com.auThe first step to change is to make the decision to actually "do it". When we have decided to change our lives, how do we start, though? There are many ways ...
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