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3 days ago

Marc de Bruin

Infallible Counselling Techniques.

Are you looking for a way to forget about all your problems for about 20-30 minutes, today? To be right here, right now, and "know" that "all is well"?

I'm dead serious.

Do yourself, and everyone else on the planet (as we're all connected) a favour.

Breathe consciously for 7 minutes. Watch -and listen to- Ben Howard and his band. I mean: watch; and really listen. Through big speakers or a good headset, so you can hear all the subtleties.

Musical magic. It's all you need.

Repeat 3 to 4 times, and 21-28 minutes of your day will have been absolutely fine.

This is how simple solutions to problems can be. It has worked wonders in my life since 1969.

youtu.be/T4yh2NZ0kJw

#BenHoward #TheEndOfTheAffair #Counselling #SimplifyingLife
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6 days ago

Marc de Bruin

All my best counselling tips and insights in one image.

That's it. I can retire, now.

I've given all the secrets away.

#counsellor #simplifyinglife
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All my best counselling tips and insights in one image.

Thats it. I can retire, now.

Ive given all the secrets away.

#Counsellor #SimplifyingLife

2 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

When you are in a discussion with someone (anyone, really), ask yourself the question:

Am I disagreeing with this person because I think s/he is wrong, and I want to prove I am right?

OR

Am I disagreeing with this person because I think s/he has a point, and by contrasting his/her opinion with mine I am trying to get to understand this person's viewpoint better?

First option: classic "did; did not; did, too" discussion. Generally leads to nothing, as research shows that throwing more arguments into a discussion generally doesn't change the other person's opinion. Just shut up, and walk away. Agree to disagree, for now. Useless waste of time and energy to keep going.

Second option: let the other person know you value their perspective, but just want to explore it further by "polarising". This allows for a healthy debate between two people with differing opinions who respect each other. Both will end up wiser and more knowledgeable.

The first option can be remedied, but that's fodder for another post 🙂

#Counsellor #SimplifyingLife #HumanInteraction
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When you are in a discussion with someone (anyone, really), ask yourself the question:

Am I disagreeing with this person because I think s/he is wrong, and I want to prove I am right?

OR

Am I disagreeing with this person because I think s/he has a point, and by contrasting his/her opinion with mine I am trying to get to understand this persons viewpoint better?

First option: classic did; did not; did, too discussion. Generally leads to nothing, as research shows that throwing more arguments into a discussion generally doesnt change the other persons opinion. Just shut up, and walk away. Agree to disagree, for now. Useless waste of time and energy to keep going.

Second option: let the other person know you value their perspective, but just want to explore it further by polarising. This allows for a healthy debate between two people with differing opinions who respect each other. Both will end up wiser and more knowledgeable.

The first option can be remedied, but thats fodder for another post :-)

#Counsellor #SimplifyingLife #HumanInteraction

2 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

"Freedom is a state of Mind" first and foremost.

#Freedom #ManageYourThoughts #ThinkFree
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Freedom is a state of Mind first and foremost.

#Freedom #ManageYourThoughts #ThinkFree

2 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

When people see some things as beautiful,
other things become ugly.
When people see some things as good,
other things become bad.

Being and non-being create each other.
Difficult and easy support each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low depend on each other.
Before and after follow each other.

Therefore the Master
acts without doing anything
and teaches without saying anything.
Things arise and she lets them come;
things disappear and she lets them go.
She has but doesn't possess,
acts but doesn't expect.
When her work is done, she forgets it.
That is why it lasts forever.
[Tao Te Ching]#tao #wisdom
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4 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

The stories of many of my clients symbolised in one picture.

#wearenotimprisoned #wejustthinkweare
#simplifyinglife #counsellor #counselling
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The stories of many of my clients symbolised in one picture.

#WeAreNotImprisoned #WeJustThinkWeAre
#SimplifyingLife #Counsellor #Counselling

4 weeks ago

Marc de Bruin

This guy is one of my heroes in counselling and psychology.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. So cool.

Give yourself 20 minutes to watch this TED Talk.

"We hurt where we care, and we care where we hurt ... Love isn't everything; it's the only thing."
-Steven Hayes

www.youtube.com/watch?v=o79_gmO5ppg

#counselling #SimplifyingLife #Counsellor
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Yes same, my absolute go to

1 month ago

Marc de Bruin

My thoughts exactly.

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My thoughts exactly.

#Counselling #SimplifyingLife
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