2 weeks ago
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Please always aim to feel good about yourself from the inside out, not the outside in.... And aim to totally ignore what benchmarks the outside-in world seems to want to set. They're so unrealistic, it's ridiculous.
What appears to be real from the outside in hardly ever is, and often only leads to unrealistic expectations and unnecessary disapproval of ourselves, and unfortunately to serious mental health issues (Body Dysmorphic Disorder being one of them).
Watch this, and you may get my point -I trust you get my point EVEN without watching the vid 😉
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Under stress, our brain works differently. The limbic areas light up more prominently. We become more sensitive to danger cues, to negative news, to things that could go wrong, when we don't feel good ourselves. We become more attuned to this "negative" news, and tend to look for it more, as well (which makes us feel even worse). This might be a good idea from a physical survival point of view, but it often leads to sub-optimal behaviour in our 21st Century world, research suggests.
We often "instinctively" overreact, with undesired consequences. Or we start to become risk-averse, "play it safe"; become more conservative. In many cases, though, when life doesn't go our way, it is actually a good thing to run some risk, to "try something else", to "be brave" and act differently, but it seems to go against our natural instinct.
In order to counter the tendency of our brain to become more and more obsessed with bad news, to catastrophise and to act against our best interest (by risk aversion and avoidance), it is good to be 1) aware of this tendency, to then 2) act in a more effective manner than "fight, flight, freeze or faint". We need our more "clear thinking brain" to help us out with that. This can help us to balance out the fear-based, limbic areas of our brain. Results will often be more beneficial, in any area of our life.
Put simply: be wise about it, but be careful to not let your mood dictate your actions in all cases.
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Our values are the answer to the question: what is important to you in your life?
What we find important in our lives easily shows in our actions: in what we spend time, money, effort, energy, thought and goals on. What we SAY is important in our lives does not always correlate with what our ACTIONS show is important in our lives. We behave according to often unconscious and unexamined "rule books".
If your life is exactly the way you want it: good for you! Keep up the good work, and still have a look at this video to learn about ways how to keep it so.
If your personal and/or professional life could do with some improvements, I discuss 4 easy ways to ensure that your actions and behaviour are in line with what is REALLY most important to you (and not with what you THOUGHT was important).
Happiness, fulfilment and a sense of purpose depend on it.
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Sleep deprivation; sleep-debt; lack of sleep. Many of us are suffering from it.
There are some general rules and helpful guidelines when it comes to good sleep, quantity and quality wise.
This video touches on a couple of the things to keep in mind when you are looking for a good night's sleep.
Marc de Bruin
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When we want to change our own (or others') behaviour for the better -AND be successful!- we need to take our neuro-biology into account. Our brains respond to different motivators: when it comes to STARTING new (more desired) behaviour we need other motivators and reasoning than when it comes to STOPPING old (less desired) behaviour. There are (evolutionarily old) in-built, biological reasons for this. This is why the threat of punishment may work well in one scenario, but hardly at all in another.
There is lots to be said about this. This video will give you a peek into what we could (or shouldn't) do in order to change our own behaviour, or that of others (both in professional and personal settings).
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